Is It WORTH it?

Assalammualaikum

This is just a light entry, to express my feeling and thoughts. 

Say we have someone in the family that is not generally as fit as we are. In other shorter word, a bit overweight. We named him A.

And say, in a large family we have a family member, P, that is originally fat, but under certain circumstances and motivation, had successfully reduced his weight and we can see him now as slim and fit personal. In summary, he achieved that by eating no rice, exercising and so forth.

P is a successful political man, successful businessman and even went to Makkah approximately twice. He’d maybe known as wise and influenced people. But yes, his talk sometimes can be mistaken as ‘bragging’, maybe to gain or maybe he had large amount of respect from people around him. He is so knowledgeable even though he has not reached the age of 40 yet. Easy to imagine, right?

And A happened to be a new member in this large family, being as a nephew to this P.

He is a non-smoker, moderate guy that seldom involve in P’s conversation that usually being held at Mamak’s restaurant. A is good in IT, so sometimes P still needed his help despite his position of Mr.-knows-everything.

Okay, end of briefing.

The things that make me wonder are,

Why is that every time (yes, every single time) P meets A, he will criticize about A’s figure, in a very mean way? Does he criticize to build, or to condemn?

Why is that every time P meets A, he will say everything in the world that we would not like to hear?

Even if A seeks advice on how to become fit, P will response in a you-will-not-be-capable-of-doing-what-I-say manner?

Then I would like to summarize the story also with questionnaire:-

Did Islam told you to become rude and criticize people the way you want without thinking about his feeling?

Do Rasulullah even forbid us to call people with nicknames he/she does not like, does he not? What about this extend of hurting people’s feeling badly? What will he thinks?

Does he thinks about the longer time existing in maintaining relationship in future, or does he not?

Does the age’s gap permit us to say anything we like to younger people that are suppose to respect us?

Or if we look from the perspective of being a man means you must have a tough heart that will not falter from hearing any sarcastic words?

Do Rasulullah was the bravest man in the battle field, yet he cried at night being a thankful slave to Allah, or does he not?

And a lot more question lingering in my mind, trying to connect the evidence of being a religious man and saying bad things to people.

What is his accomplishment, satisfaction, contentment, saying harsh words to a person that could not even talk back, because of the respect to the elderly?

Well somehow the A is the person I love most, and unfortunately to confess, the P is my own uncle. He maybe never will read this, but I have the forced to write for a bit of relief.

For myself and the readers, I just hope we could watch our words everyday to people, either close or not-so-close to us. We might not want to hurt people’s feeling, just as we don’t want our hearts to get hurt.

My golden principle is, “Treat others the way you want yourself to be treated”.


And my book of guidance said,

"Perkataan yang baik dan perbuatan memaafkan (kesilapan mereka) adalah lebih baik daripada memberi sedekah (pemberian) yang diiringi (dengan perbuatan atau perkataan) menyakitkan hati. Dan (ingatlah) Allah maha kaya dan maha penyantun".

(Al-Baqarah: 263)